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Diane Feen's avatar

Oops us - hate spell check. It not only gives advice but dumps it’s grammar beliefs on us.

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M. Louisa Locke's avatar

First of all, great piece, with just the right amount of snark. But just in case you are actually serious, since you are asking for advice....that is my suggestion #1, wait until someone actually asks for advice. I still have trouble understanding that when someone is complaining to me they are not asking for me to fix the problem, and what they primarily wanted was for me to listen and say something neutral and sympathetic. Of course, like you, I hate when people offer advice when I complain, but I love the sound of my own advice. Then there are the people who actually ask for advice, and my #2 suggestion is to say, "I don't know what would be best for you, but when I have been in a similar situation, this is what I did...or would do." Then suggestion #3, I try really, really hard to let go of any expectation that my advice will be followed, which means I don't get to say I told you so when they fail to follow my excellent guidance!

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