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This is a wonderful tribute. May your heart heal in time. I know being snarky is not always a full solution to this kind of pain... but it sure helps. Love to you, Erica.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what you're going through. Your euIogy for Lonnie was wonderful. It brought tears to my eyes. I too, lost my sister from another mother. I reaIIy miss my BFF. At odd moments I find myself talking to her. I wonder if she hears me. Thank you for sharing.

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I am sorry for your loss and hope that writing this was somewhat cathartic.

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Lovely tribute. Sorry for your loss, Erica.

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Such a heartfelt post. I’m so sorry about Lonnie’s passing.

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My condolences on the loss of your true sister in life. Reading your reminiscence of your younger years when you and Lonnie spent hours and days together, I could picture the two of you sitting in New York cafes and chatting away the time. I never thought I'd miss the '80's, but now that I'm old, I do.

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Thank you for sharing this wonderful remembrance. I lost my Lonnie a couple years ago. It's hard. Take care of yourself.

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Takes me back, Erica. And let's face it, those were the golden years of intellectual, work-life and sexual exploration. The highs were higher, perhaps the pain was sharper, but I can feel that steamy summer NY air on my arms as I write this. So aware and yet innocent in some fundamental way.

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Such a beautiful elegy for your friend and for a time. And your description of how the two of you consciously worked to preserve the friendship is inspiring.

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Those of us who were blessed with extraordinary "sisters from other mothers" and are left to navigate life without them carry both an extra blessing and extra burden. So sorry for your loss. So grateful you had one-another. So appreciative that you were able to capture her essence and your relationship so brilliantly. Thank you for sharing her with us....

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Wonderful reminiscence, wonderfully told. I can picture my Big Sis living this life had she been in New York City. Sorry for your loss.

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A beautiful piece Erica, so sorry for your loss ❤️ Thank you also for capturing the busyness and noise of young women trying to find a footing now. I (at 27) envy the afternoons you mention at Marvin's.

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Thank you so much

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loved that, Erica. So sorry.

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Sorry to hear about your loss. That's the very thing I hate most about growing older - losing our beloved friends.

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There is no one on earth like a long time close friend. When they leave us they take so much history and part of our identity. And we are left with a gaping hole where they used to be. I send love and caring. Thanks for sharing lovely Lonnie with us.

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So beautifully written, so poignantly capturing an era, I too, miss. Thank you for sharing you all’s story.

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