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Sep 10, 2023Liked by Erica Manfred

You were still relatively young to have broken your hip. Usually, people are well into their 70s or older.

Keep in mind that the reason we see those stories about people in their 90s and beyond jumping out of planes and standing on their heads in yoga class is because it is so unusual. If this were common or typical, why would they bother featuring it on the evening news?

I'm sorry you are dealing with all of these health problems. Here's to doing the best with what you've got.

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My father lived to 87. My mother to 94. Neither of them exercised a day in their lives. They both drank. Ate whatever they wanted. Don’t beat yourself up. I’m 69 and I think about how much longer I have. It’s scary to be alone. But you’ve got your faculties and your sense of humor. Maybe could be worse?

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I'm so sorry you're going through that, Erica. Hope something fun and lucky happens to you soon!

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Suggestion for you: check out Miranda Esmond-White’s website Essentricstv.com. She is a 75 year old former ballerina from Canada who has created a very do-able easy stretching program. She is always on PBS during pledge drives.I had seen her on these shows for years and was intrigued by her program for aging adults. I am now a retired 75 year old and for $15 receive a daily email with a different stretching routine daily, for beginners. She has a set of programs for “ 70s and beyond.” When I do a program, I feel much better moving. There is nothing weird, BS, strenuous or commercial about it. You may or may not find it useful, but I think this is a great program for all types of aging bodies, younger ones too, but I do not care about them! The main impact for me is that I feel better after ward and can move a bit more easily. Good enough for me! I do them on my iPad, in the kitchen so I can hold on to a counter.

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Loved the reference to Roz Chastain. I read it while dealing with my similar mother. Just turned 70 so this is very poignant for me. My motto "we're doing the best we can."

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Thanks you for writing this. You made me smile. It's made my day better. Just turned 64 in August and I won't get into the recent adventures with hip injury, walkers and canes. Maybe I'll write about it myself one day and you can read it and maybe smile back!

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My mother was 94 when she died. She had been so strong and worked in her garden, and walked the dogs, but she did not value physical activity so was quite sedentary later in life. That really shortened her life. She was a lifelong vegetarian, she did not smoke, gave up drinking any alcohol in her mid fifties. When I compare her last five years of life with other seniors, I also feel it's unfair. She had some dementia, and due to Lyme disease had lost most of her sight, and also was extremely hard of hearing. Her mind remained strong, and quirky and inspiring. As a beautiful woman, so proud of her body, so aware of herself a social and sensual person, it was quite a revelation to see what happened. I thought, "No one escapes this. Age is transforming. youth is fleeting." It did not feel fair that less interesting people go on to live to 100 years old and still are kickboxing and paragliding. But there is a reason, whether it's lifestyle, genetics, environment, emotional, or luck of the draw, that people suffer one thing or another in the general indignity of aging. I guess it's up to us how we handle it. I like how you are handling it, writing about it.

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